Other People Are Using the World, Too
A weekend of Car Week annoyances sent me down a rabbit hole about consideration and perspective
Latest
The Lost Art of Learning Just Because You Want To
Why adults deserve an education built around curiosity instead of credentials
6 Ways Your World Gets Smaller as You Age (and Why That's a Good Thing)
What I didn't expect to learn about getting older, paying attention, and figuring out what matters most
Recognizing the Patterns in Your Own Creative Work
What creative patterns and nudges can reveal about the body of work you're cultivating
On AI, Blogging in 2026, and Other Creative Conundrums
This doesn't feel like it actually belongs on Substack, so I'll stick it here instead
Freshly Dyed Hair, Clean Sheets, and Other Things That Make Life Better
Small acts of maintenance won't change your life overnight, but they can make everyday life a lot more enjoyable
Googling an Ex Isn't Always About the Ex
Looking up someone from your past can tell you a surprising amount about people and about the younger version of yourself who knew them
8 Ways Labyrinth Somehow Prepared Me for Adult Life
David Bowie, goblins, impossible staircases, and a surprising amount of wisdom for navigating adulthood
"Why Is All Your Art So Scary?"
The long answer to the question I've been hearing my entire life
An Entirely Reasonable Interest in Cucumbers
Ten observations from the garden this summer (so far)
The Dresses Waiting Upstairs
For years, two impossible gowns wait patiently for the woman who made them
Don't Let Personal Projects Become "Someday" Projects
Practical ways to keep writing, making art, and creating for yourself even when work demands your attention
Observations
I've Stopped Treating Mornings Like Enemy Territory
On aging, changing preferences, and discovering beauty in unexpected places
Aging
9 Signs Your Bucket List Has Evolved into a Death Tour
Why midlife dreams start looking less like skydiving and more like finally learning Icelandic
Artificial Intelligence
So, I Guess We Use AI to Talk to Each Other Online Now
What happens when comments, replies, and internet conversation become machine-assisted
On Spring, Wuthering Heights, and a Few Personal Things
A brief update on life — something I just don't do enough anymore
Aging
By 50, You’re Done With More Than You Think
What changes for women in midlife and why you stop tolerating things that used to feel normal
Books
On Christina Applegate, Nostalgia, and Common Connections
Every so often, something reminds me that people have so much more in common than otherwise
Life
Take the Picture, Because You'll Forget More Than You Think
What a bizarrely calm bird taught me about memory, detail, and proof
Relationships
Stop Trying to Care About Things You’re Done With
Why interest fades, what to do when it does, and why people push back
holidays
I'm Not an April Fool's Person
On pranks, awkward social scripts, and quietly stepping out of the joke
Internet
This Is Not the Audience I Ordered
A writer’s take on audience mismatch, parasocial weirdness, and platform logic that doesn’t add up
Life
Somewhere Between Winter and Whatever Comes Next
Turning fifty, rearranging a life, and letting the space tell the truth
Writing
5 Small, Strange Habits Every Longtime Writer Develops
From mentally editing restaurant menus to collecting odd bits of dialogue for future stories