Googling an Ex Isn't Always About the Ex
Looking up someone from your past can tell you a surprising amount about people and about the younger version of yourself who knew them
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8 Ways Labyrinth Somehow Prepared Me for Adult Life
David Bowie, goblins, impossible staircases, and a surprising amount of wisdom for navigating adulthood
"Why Is All Your Art So Scary?"
The long answer to the question I've been hearing my entire life
An Entirely Reasonable Interest in Cucmbers
Ten observations from the garden this summer (so far)
The Dresses Waiting Upstairs
For years, two impossible gowns wait patiently for the woman who made them
Don't Let Personal Projects Become "Someday" Projects
Practical ways to keep writing, making art, and creating for yourself even when work demands your attention
I've Stopped Treating Mornings Like Enemy Territory
On aging, changing preferences, and discovering beauty in unexpected places
9 Signs Your Bucket List Has Evolved into a Death Tour
Why midlife dreams start looking less like skydiving and more like finally learning Icelandic
So, I Guess We Use AI to Talk to Each Other Online Now
What happens when comments, replies, and internet conversation become machine-assisted
On Spring, Wuthering Heights, and a Few Personal Things
A brief update on life — something I just don't do enough anymore
By 50, You’re Done With More Than You Think
What changes for women in midlife and why you stop tolerating things that used to feel normal
On Christina Applegate, Nostalgia, and Common Connections
Every so often, something reminds me that people have so much more in common than otherwise
Life
Take the Picture, Because You'll Forget More Than You Think
What a bizarrely calm bird taught me about memory, detail, and proof
Relationships
Stop Trying to Care About Things You’re Done With
Why interest fades, what to do when it does, and why people push back
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I'm Not an April Fool's Person
On pranks, awkward social scripts, and quietly stepping out of the joke
Internet
This Is Not the Audience I Ordered
A writer’s take on audience mismatch, parasocial weirdness, and platform logic that doesn’t add up
Life
Somewhere Between Winter and Whatever Comes Next
Turning fifty, rearranging a life, and letting the space tell the truth
Writing
5 Small, Strange Habits Every Longtime Writer Develops
From mentally editing restaurant menus to collecting odd bits of dialogue for future stories
Movies
What I'd Grab in the Criterion Closet
A short list of long obsessions
Life
Eleven-Year-Old Me Had a Plan
What she got wrong about adulthood and what she understood better than I did
Life
What I Kept, What I Threw Away, and Why It Mattered
On cleaning out our house, reclaiming a space, and choosing the present
Internet
I Don't Want to Be Discovered. I Want to Be Understood
Reflections on visibility, proximity, and what creative recognition really costs
Internet
The Difference Between Having a Thought and Publishing It
How I decide when to stop writing and close the tab
Movies
Jim Carrey, Andy Kaufman, and the Art of Letting People Squirm
A love letter to social experiments, good-natured trolling, and intentional confusion