I Don't Want to Be Discovered. I Want to Be Understood
Reflections on visibility, proximity, and what creative recognition really costs
Latest
The Difference Between Having a Thought and Publishing It
How I decide when to stop writing and close the tab
Jim Carrey, Andy Kaufman, and the Art of Letting People Squirm
A love letter to social experiments, good-natured trolling, and intentional confusion
Everyone Clicks the Personal Blog
And I think I've finally stopped wondering why
Being Seen Is Not the Same as Being Available
On attention, assumption, and choosing where access ends
What I’m Doing When I Don’t Have Much to Give
Keeping commitments and maintaining creative connection during an intense stretch
You Don't Need a "New You" in the Dead of Winter
Rethinking January’s obsession with reinvention
Life, Slightly Out of Order
A quiet check-in during a slightly unsettled stretch
The Joy of Not Explaining Yourself
What happens when you stop rushing to make your ideas legible
Being Honest Without Making Yourself Unhireable
What freelancers get wrong about authenticity, vulnerability, and public writing
Some Emails Are Just… There
What to do with messages you never asked for
On Not Wanting an Audience for Every Thought Anymore
A look back at oversharing as survival and what comes after it
Life
This Is a Low-Volume Holiday Season
What it’s like when December shows up without much fanfare
Artificial Intelligence
If Art Has Rules, They Don’t Work Anymore
A storyteller’s take on intention, AI tools, and the myth of “real” creativity
Books
On Discovering Flannery O’Connor When You’re Finally Old Enough to Appreciate Her
A reflection on timing, obsession, and the fear that there are more good books than years left to read them
Life Lessons
7 Uncomfortable Truths You Only Learn Once You Stop Trying to Be Likable
The backstage pass to adulthood nobody meant to hand you
Work Life Balance
The Day After a Holiday Is Always Strange (And Nobody Talks About It)
A field guide to feeling weird
Life
We Don’t Do the Big Family Thanksgiving Table Thing
And honestly? The holiday’s better for it
Internet
Please Forward All Mail to the Current Version of Me
What your old internet acquaintances can teach you about growth (and selective replying)
Life
The Art of the Quiet Pivot
How small, almost-invisible shifts can secretly re-route your entire life
Self Image
On the Spiritual Art of Letting People Be Wrong About You
Reclaiming your own narrative when the world keeps inventing a version of you that doesn't exist
Life Lessons
You Can’t Choose Your Way Out of Being Human
Why even the "right" choices will eventually make you cry in a Target parking lot
Movies
Mandy and the Art of Growing Older Without Becoming a Cult Leader
What an acid-washed revenge movie taught me about aging, ego, and building a world worth living in
Internet
The Internet Used to Be About People
And maybe it still could be, if we'd stop acting like walking brand deals